Posted by: C J | March 12, 2019

What if, it isn’t even…

about you?









I now realize, that when someone hears you tell a truth that they are not ready to hear, cannot handle, or just plain in denial; they will blame you for their pain. You have dug up something they have been trying to repress and suppress and just don’t want to deal with.

“In order to be effective, truth must penetrate like an arrow – and that’s likely to hurt.” Wei Wu Wei

I also recognize the journey through their outrage and anger at you for telling what they wanted to keep hidden, isn’t even about you! It’s about their anger with themselves for believing and living a lie; that they don’t know how to reverse or reboot… 

“There is always a price for living a lie.” Dr. CJ 

I had a college professor who would go bat-shiiiiiiit crazy when he heard someone in class chewing or smacking gum. His teaching, would come to a halt as he scanned the classroom trying to figure out who was guilty. Of course, he couldn’t so he’d berate in general. For sure, that was NOT about chewing gum or the person chewing the gum. It simple was a nasty trigger for the professor. So, sometimes without knowing it, we are someone’s nasty little trigger. It’s not about you!

 “It is not about you,  it is their issues in their tissues.” Dr. CJ 

I’ve come to understand, if a person can’t handle the truth, it’s because they want to continue to believe and live that lie. And you can’t change that; so, don’t even try – it is a waste of time, space, and energy.

In the past few years I’ve witnessed a lot of anger, a lot of discord, and a lot of yelling and it’s all drenched in the stench of lies. I’m sure you have too unless you’ve been living in the Potala Palace in Tibet.

The worst thing about being lied to – is when you recognize – that the liar didn’t think you were worth the truth. (Sit with that for a minute.) Some people have lying in their DNA; it is as easy as inhaling and exhaling for them. Again, it is not about you.

“Being authentic means you have nothing to hide, prove, defend, or protect.” Lisa Nichols

In the past few years I’ve been vilified, shunned, and dismissed for speaking truth or even just acknowledging a truth I heard; and I love that. Because I know it is not about me.

Even though, it’s not about you – to keep your energy clean and vibrating at a high frequency where Divinity,  creativity, and serenity resides. Sincerely practice the Ho’oponopono prayer daily. 

Come back soon for another cup of comfort…

Posted by: C J | January 1, 2019

It’s that time again…

Time to sparkle and shine!

Hello All,

As, I’m reflecting on 2018’s thoughts, emotions, successes, regrets, fears, and dreams. I am truly grateful that I experienced another year of good health, family time, and lots of yard work.

As this year starts anew, I want to thank you for allowing me into your sacred space. I apologize for NOT posting more in 2018.

Instead of making resolutions for the new year, I choose a word for the year and commit to being, doing, and sharing that word. Whelp, the word for 2018 was ‘amplify’ and I did not do my best.

So, for 2019 the word is ‘evaluate’. My first use is to evaluate what’s already on my plate and decide what to celebrate, what can wait, and what’s still at the gate.

I am so excited that we’ve been given another opportunity to write our own story, follow our Divine path, and stay in alignment with our soul’s assignment. What will you do differently this year?

Have a happy prosperous joy-filled year. Please, remember I love you to the Full Moon and back.

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Posted by: C J | July 11, 2018

Mindfulness through

making yard art from the heart.


I’m often asked, Dr. CJ, what do you do for therapy, what is your stress relief? Well,  working and playing in my yard is relaxing. It is my therapy, my version of mindfulness, and my stress relief. I love finding new ways to use old things in my own yard.

I must admit I am very right-brained but I really felt like an engineer while putting this project together. You’ll be surprise at how I used found objects just lying around in the yard. The finished project is right off my front porch, so in the mornings when I’m having coffee; I’m also enjoying this 3-tiered planter.

If you want to see the before and after pictures; follow the link below for a detailed ‘how to’. I hope it inspires you to relax, practice mindfulness and have some fun in your own yard.

Posted by: C J | July 5, 2018

Let your inner child find joy in…

Your Own Back-yard.


Paint -time

Emotional freedom includes the ability to enjoy your life and to bloom where you’re planted. I believe in letting our inner-child enjoy part of our day and just play.

These tractor seats are fun because you cannot sit still. Believe me, many people have tried to sit on these and not have fun; but it is damn near impossible.







If you have a question about these fun seats, want to join the conversation, or want to see more pictures of the project – come visit me at –

Our community there makes it is easy to have fun and to share your creativity.






Come back soon for another cup of joy and comfort!


Posted by: C J | June 29, 2018

It is Summer and time for…

yep it’s time for humming birds, watermelon, and butterflies just for fun.


To more cute pictures of these neat creatures with sticky feet check out

sweet treat









Posted by: C J | May 8, 2018

Even in our brokenness we can…

help others; we don’t have to be perfect.

What the hell, was that? I jumped, shut my eyes, and ducked my head as I heard this loud CRACK.  I’m in my yard, surrounded by woodlands so I’m always hearing strange sounds. When I lifted my head and opened my eyes, I could see it was my rotten insect infested peach tree. The one branch that was still bearing fruit had split and fell to the ground. I looked at it and was just about to finish ripping off the piece of bark that was still barely hanging on to the trunk. But something stopped me and said, “Leave it alone.” I thought to myself, okay I’ll give it time to die by itself. Whelp, it’s been three weeks since that big cracking sound and that peach tree is still green and bearing fruit. (See Photos)

So, my goose bump ‘Aha’ moment was; wow, even in our brokenness God can use us, he can shine through us, and he can still express beauty through our brokenness. Standing there looking at this simple act of Nature brought tears and chills to my spirit. I also realized; just because something appears to be broken doesn’t mean I have to tear it down or finish ripping it apart.

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” Rumi

I’ve come to understand that at times we have to be broken open, so we can make room for our spiritual growth. In this space of difficulty our soul learns and earns new growth. In this place, of pain something is being trained within us for a later time. If we go through it, we get a chance to let our soul shine.

And sometimes our soul’s mission is to bear witness to someone else’s cracks, darkness, and broken parts. Sometimes we just need to be with them without redirecting them, without protecting them, and without solving their problems, because God is working on them through their brokenness, so that they can grow and become who they are meant to be. Sometimes we rescue people right out of their Divine orders. What if, our biggest mess becomes our biggest message? The message that will help others.

“Embedded in our brokenness is God’s perfect plan for us…” Dr. CJ

Have you ever ventured beyond the noise; the noise of what others want from you, what others expect you to be, and what others want for you? Have you ventured beyond the noise into the stillness of your soul’s voice or the quiet voice of the Divine? Here’s the thing, your amazing light needs darkness to shine its brightness.

“The Light does not try to convince the darkness of its value, Nope- the Light just shows up and OUTSHINES the darkness” Dr. CJ

I cannot explain to you why and how this peach tree with all its brokenness is still producing fruit and still is so alive. But what if, within the unexplainable we find our attainable, brilliant, gorgeous, lovable, self?


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Posted by: C J | August 31, 2017

Forgiveness ain’t for the weak – it’s for the

Spiritual and strong person…


Break free with forgiveness



Forgiveness is about you and for you. It is NOT about the offender getting off the hook or condoning what the offender did or didn’t do. It is about releasing the charge an event, person, or situation has on you, that brings you pain each time you think about it or when something like a smell triggers a memory of the event.

The courage and willingness to forgive someone who has harmed you in some way, is one amazing act of self-care and self-love.  (If you do it often enough it becomes a practice or release tool). When you can accept that you may never get a deserved apology, that helps you let go of expectations for what’s not to be. And when you can acknowledge to yourself a regret of something you did or didn’t do and forgive yourself, it does give you space to breathe.

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness is part of your emotional and spiritual muscles, you build every time you forgive someone (including forgiving yourself) and every time you ask someone for forgiveness; it builds your spiritual muscle and expands your spiritual growth. Hey, for me spiritual growth is enough of a reason to forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness but because, I deserve the peace and serenity of letting the charge they have over me out of my system.

Robin Casarjian author of the book, “Forgiveness A Bold Choice for a Peaceful Heart” says, “Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event.” I agree with Casarian and to help me with the practice of forgiveness, I was blessed to discover the Ho’oponopno prayer last year. It helps me ask for forgiveness and to offer forgiveness to others and myself.

“Forgive yourself for your faults and your mistakes and move on.”  Les Brown

Ho’oponopono prayer is a Hawaiian tradition; which gives us the opportunity to make right – right. It is a way of cleaning yourself of negative feelings, charges, and resentments. Please research this beautiful practice for yourself. I use Ho’oponopono Song by Aman Ryusuke Seto, on Youtube as a meditation.

Who do you need to ask forgiveness dead or alive? I believe the energy of forgiveness is carried even to the other side; just saying, “I’m sorry, please forgive me out loud or writing it down often will give you relief from “stuff” that has kept you stuck in a rut. I’ve come to understand that if you cling to anger, self-pity, or resentment, over time you become judgmental, hypercritical, and less compassionate. And who wants to be in that negative state?

Sometimes, people don’t apologize because they’re ashamed for what they did or didn’t do. Do your best to find a way to forgive them anyway. Sometimes when people know they did you wrong and don’t want to own it; they will try and dismiss or discredit you, forgive them anyway. Too often we have to learn how to be okay with that, “I’m sorry” you never will get. Remember Forgiveness unblocks your blessings. So just do it. You are worth it!

“When you forgive somebody, it doesn’t necessarily mean you want to invite them to your table.” Oprah


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Posted by: C J | November 30, 2016

Even though it is 2016 it feels like…

 the 1950’s and 1960’s

Shine a light...

Shine a light…


This past month has been a doozy and has left me woozy, because some recent events have dug deeply and opened old wounds. Wounds that I thought were dead and buried.

Even though, for the past 40 some years I haven’t had to deal with or live with the blatant discrimination and segregation of my childhood. I shudder, when in Oklahoma City, my great-niece is being told to, “Pack your bags because with Trump as president he’s going to send you all back to Africa.” I cringe, I cry, and I scream; THIS CANNOT BE HAPPENING AGAIN!

Hmmm, I remember my mom and I walking across town on our way to church. I’m loosely holding her hand and skipping to the beat of her feet. We’re singing and then what happened next quickly reminded us that we were Negroes, at the mercy of a white man in a big brown car. I can’t remember his words, but I do remember Mom’s grip on my hand tightening as she picked up a rock and told the guy; “You’d better leave us alone.” By now I’m too scared to skip or sing; I just want to run the seven blocks to the safety of the church.

Even though, this is 2016 – in Georgia and integration has been in full effect for over 50 some years,  I ache when my friend tells me, in Conyers, his step-son was getting on the school bus and a white guy in his 60’s yells at the kids getting on the bus, “Y’all know Trump won last night so y’all better watch out.” I cringe, I cry, and I scream; THIS CANNOT BE HAPPENING AGAIN!

“Change is inevitable, progress is optional.” Tony Robbins

Even though many of the people voted for change and not racism – I wonder, is this slide back into segregation, this unwritten permission to bully at will, or this unfiltered hated the change you wanted, expected, or anticipated? Did you expect his name to become a tool of hate and threat?

Yes, I get that some change has been wanted and needed BUT when that change is openly celebrated by the kkk, the American nazi party, and other white supremacist groups; that believe Trump has given them permission to openly bully and hate, it’s enough to make me want to HOLLER.

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” Nelson Mandela

And when current cabinet choices are well known alt- right – white supremacists, who believe segregation is the correct path and the hate-gate should be held open wider, yes, I do scream as the salt hits that reopened wound because it fucking hurts. It hurts enough to make me cringe, cry, and scream – Your Agenda is Drenched in the Stench of Racism.

Somebody shine a light on my darkness.  Please prove me wrong. Please show me I’m overreacting. Please soothe my angst about the direction of my country – because I too sing America.

Come back soon…

Posted by: C J | October 13, 2016

Ripples from Source to you…

Side-by-side with the law of Cause and Effect, the law of synchronicity shapes our everyday reality. Except this is not about before and after. And one thing does not happen as a result of the other…

Source: Ripples from Source to you…

Posted by: C J | August 7, 2016

If you reap what you sow – what have you …

sown lately?


Plant your seeds of ...

Plant your seeds of …



I try my best to keep commitments, so here’s another post on seeds. There are so many seeds to plant and to choose from, but today let’s play with: seeds of awakening, seeds of kindness, and seeds of joy.

I’ve come to understand that when we practice continued awakening, random acts of kindness, and bringing the joy – we become a magnet for vibrational blessings of abundance because we are actually changing the frequency of our own energy. We just have to be ready, open, and available to receive the blessings and then share them.

I’ve also noticed that when I’m on target and staying in my lane (80/20); I feel a complete fullness in my soul, my heart feels expansive, and my spirit can amplify and shine its light, without blinding anyone.

  1. I choose to plant seeds of awakening by helping others remember we are all here on our soul’s journey; like Dr. Brian Weiss author of ‘Same Soul Many Bodies’ I believe we have one soul and each time we go in or go out – is a chance for us to fulfill our soul’s agenda. Psalms 121: 7-8, “… he shall preserve thy soul. The Lord shall preserve thy going out and they coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.” In my opinion this scripture is discussing our soul’s journey in and out of heaven.

Part of the seed of awakening is being open-minded enough to hear God in all his voices and guises – to experience the many faces of God/Universe through wide-eyes: sunsets – sunshine – moon beams – star light – Nature is one of my favorite ways of experiencing the Universe in its glory.

“Spiritual awakening starts with a seed of thought and grows into a revelation …” Nicky Sutton

  1. I choose to plant seeds of kindness because if I’m going to reap what I sow, I want to reap kindness. I have a friend who says, he sowed too many seeds of badness in his druggie days, so now, he continually has to pray for a crop failure (LOL). Thank goodness for the law of – when you know better you do better!

Since Karma knows my soul’s address, I want to plant random acts of kindness as often as possible. I enjoy the smile on a person’s face or the unsolicited hug, when a person experiences my unexpected act of kindness. Is that selfish to enjoy others’ responses?

“No act of kindness is ever wasted.” Aesop

  1. I choose to plant seeds of joy wherever I go – in the grocery store, at family gatherings, even in my garden. I want to be mindful and leave positively charged energy, so whenever someone sees me coming, they are glad I’m headed in their direction; not ducking from me or wishing they could be beamed up by Scottie instead. And yes, I even like to bring the joy to the butterflies and birds in my yard.

In our society, today’s zeitgeist is filled with negativity, misunderstandings, and fear. It seems so many people – fear what they hate – hate what they fear and feel justified the bullying of those people, places, and things they are being taught to fear. So that’s why, I know that I am in alignment with my soul’s assignment when I can bring in the joy or generate enough joy to share with others.

“You don’t have joy; you choose to intentionally generate it.” Brendon Burchard

What are you planting today? — Remember words are power-filled and can be helpful or hurtful.

Will you plant negative or positive seeds today? — Let’s make a joy-full noise!


Come back soon for another cup of comfort!



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