Posted by: C J | May 8, 2018

Even in our brokenness we can…

help others; we don’t have to be perfect.

What the hell, was that? I jumped, shut my eyes, and ducked my head as I heard this loud CRACK.  I’m in my yard, surrounded by woodlands so I’m always hearing strange sounds. When I lifted my head and opened my eyes, I could see it was my rotten insect infested peach tree. The one branch that was still bearing fruit had split and fell to the ground. I looked at it and was just about to finish ripping off the piece of bark that was still barely hanging on to the trunk. But something stopped me and said, “Leave it alone.” I thought to myself, okay I’ll give it time to die by itself. Whelp, it’s been three weeks since that big cracking sound and that peach tree is still green and bearing fruit. (See Photos)

So, my goose bump ‘Aha’ moment was; wow, even in our brokenness God can use us, he can shine through us, and he can still express beauty through our brokenness. Standing there looking at this simple act of Nature brought tears and chills to my spirit. I also realized; just because something appears to be broken doesn’t mean I have to tear it down or finish ripping it apart.

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” Rumi

I’ve come to understand that at times we have to be broken open, so we can make room for our spiritual growth. In this space of difficulty our soul learns and earns new growth. In this place, of pain something is being trained within us for a later time. If we go through it, we get a chance to let our soul shine.

And sometimes our soul’s mission is to bear witness to someone else’s cracks, darkness, and broken parts. Sometimes we just need to be with them without redirecting them, without protecting them, and without solving their problems, because God is working on them through their brokenness, so that they can grow and become who they are meant to be. Sometimes we rescue people right out of their Divine orders. What if, our biggest mess becomes our biggest message? The message that will help others.

“Embedded in our brokenness is God’s perfect plan for us…” Dr. CJ

Have you ever ventured beyond the noise; the noise of what others want from you, what others expect you to be, and what others want for you? Have you ventured beyond the noise into the stillness of your soul’s voice or the quiet voice of the Divine? Here’s the thing, your amazing light needs darkness to shine its brightness.

“The Light does not try to convince the darkness of its value, Nope- the Light just shows up and OUTSHINES the darkness” Dr. CJ

I cannot explain to you why and how this peach tree with all its brokenness is still producing fruit and still is so alive. But what if, within the unexplainable we find our attainable, brilliant, gorgeous, lovable, self?


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Posted by: C J | August 31, 2017

Forgiveness ain’t for the weak – it’s for the

Spiritual and strong person…


Break free with forgiveness



Forgiveness is about you and for you. It is NOT about the offender getting off the hook or condoning what the offender did or didn’t do. It is about releasing the charge an event, person, or situation has on you, that brings you pain each time you think about it or when something like a smell triggers a memory of the event.

The courage and willingness to forgive someone who has harmed you in some way, is one amazing act of self-care and self-love.  (If you do it often enough it becomes a practice or release tool). When you can accept that you may never get a deserved apology, that helps you let go of expectations for what’s not to be. And when you can acknowledge to yourself a regret of something you did or didn’t do and forgive yourself, it does give you space to breathe.

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness is part of your emotional and spiritual muscles, you build every time you forgive someone (including forgiving yourself) and every time you ask someone for forgiveness; it builds your spiritual muscle and expands your spiritual growth. Hey, for me spiritual growth is enough of a reason to forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness but because, I deserve the peace and serenity of letting the charge they have over me out of my system.

Robin Casarjian author of the book, “Forgiveness A Bold Choice for a Peaceful Heart” says, “Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event.” I agree with Casarian and to help me with the practice of forgiveness, I was blessed to discover the Ho’oponopno prayer last year. It helps me ask for forgiveness and to offer forgiveness to others and myself.

“Forgive yourself for your faults and your mistakes and move on.”  Les Brown

Ho’oponopono prayer is a Hawaiian tradition; which gives us the opportunity to make right – right. It is a way of cleaning yourself of negative feelings, charges, and resentments. Please research this beautiful practice for yourself. I use Ho’oponopono Song by Aman Ryusuke Seto, on Youtube as a meditation.

Who do you need to ask forgiveness dead or alive? I believe the energy of forgiveness is carried even to the other side; just saying, “I’m sorry, please forgive me out loud or writing it down often will give you relief from “stuff” that has kept you stuck in a rut. I’ve come to understand that if you cling to anger, self-pity, or resentment, over time you become judgmental, hypercritical, and less compassionate. And who wants to be in that negative state?

Sometimes, people don’t apologize because they’re ashamed for what they did or didn’t do. Do your best to find a way to forgive them anyway. Sometimes when people know they did you wrong and don’t want to own it; they will try and dismiss or discredit you, forgive them anyway. Too often we have to learn how to be okay with that, “I’m sorry” you never will get. Remember Forgiveness unblocks your blessings. So just do it. You are worth it!

“When you forgive somebody, it doesn’t necessarily mean you want to invite them to your table.” Oprah


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Posted by: C J | November 30, 2016

Even though it is 2016 it feels like…

 the 1950’s and 1960’s

Shine a light...

Shine a light…


This past month has been a doozy and has left me woozy, because some recent events have dug deeply and opened old wounds. Wounds that I thought were dead and buried.

Even though, for the past 40 some years I haven’t had to deal with or live with the blatant discrimination and segregation of my childhood. I shudder, when in Oklahoma City, my great-niece is being told to, “Pack your bags because with Trump as president he’s going to send you all back to Africa.” I cringe, I cry, and I scream; THIS CANNOT BE HAPPENING AGAIN!

Hmmm, I remember my mom and I walking across town on our way to church. I’m loosely holding her hand and skipping to the beat of her feet. We’re singing and then what happened next quickly reminded us that we were Negroes, at the mercy of a white man in a big brown car. I can’t remember his words, but I do remember Mom’s grip on my hand tightening as she picked up a rock and told the guy; “You’d better leave us alone.” By now I’m too scared to skip or sing; I just want to run the seven blocks to the safety of the church.

Even though, this is 2016 – in Georgia and integration has been in full effect for over 50 some years,  I ache when my friend tells me, in Conyers, his step-son was getting on the school bus and a white guy in his 60’s yells at the kids getting on the bus, “Y’all know Trump won last night so y’all better watch out.” I cringe, I cry, and I scream; THIS CANNOT BE HAPPENING AGAIN!

“Change is inevitable, progress is optional.” Tony Robbins

Even though many of the people voted for change and not racism – I wonder, is this slide back into segregation, this unwritten permission to bully at will, or this unfiltered hated the change you wanted, expected, or anticipated? Did you expect his name to become a tool of hate and threat?

Yes, I get that some change has been wanted and needed BUT when that change is openly celebrated by the kkk, the American nazi party, and other white supremacist groups; that believe Trump has given them permission to openly bully and hate, it’s enough to make me want to HOLLER.

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” Nelson Mandela

And when current cabinet choices are well known alt- right – white supremacists, who believe segregation is the correct path and the hate-gate should be held open wider, yes, I do scream as the salt hits that reopened wound because it fucking hurts. It hurts enough to make me cringe, cry, and scream – Your Agenda is Drenched in the Stench of Racism.

Somebody shine a light on my darkness.  Please prove me wrong. Please show me I’m overreacting. Please soothe my angst about the direction of my country – because I too sing America.

Come back soon…

Posted by: C J | October 13, 2016

Ripples from Source to you…

Side-by-side with the law of Cause and Effect, the law of synchronicity shapes our everyday reality. Except this is not about before and after. And one thing does not happen as a result of the other…

Source: Ripples from Source to you…

Posted by: C J | August 7, 2016

If you reap what you sow – what have you …

sown lately?


Plant your seeds of ...

Plant your seeds of …



I try my best to keep commitments, so here’s another post on seeds. There are so many seeds to plant and to choose from, but today let’s play with: seeds of awakening, seeds of kindness, and seeds of joy.

I’ve come to understand that when we practice continued awakening, random acts of kindness, and bringing the joy – we become a magnet for vibrational blessings of abundance because we are actually changing the frequency of our own energy. We just have to be ready, open, and available to receive the blessings and then share them.

I’ve also noticed that when I’m on target and staying in my lane (80/20); I feel a complete fullness in my soul, my heart feels expansive, and my spirit can amplify and shine its light, without blinding anyone.

  1. I choose to plant seeds of awakening by helping others remember we are all here on our soul’s journey; like Dr. Brian Weiss author of ‘Same Soul Many Bodies’ I believe we have one soul and each time we go in or go out – is a chance for us to fulfill our soul’s agenda. Psalms 121: 7-8, “… he shall preserve thy soul. The Lord shall preserve thy going out and they coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.” In my opinion this scripture is discussing our soul’s journey in and out of heaven.

Part of the seed of awakening is being open-minded enough to hear God in all his voices and guises – to experience the many faces of God/Universe through wide-eyes: sunsets – sunshine – moon beams – star light – Nature is one of my favorite ways of experiencing the Universe in its glory.

“Spiritual awakening starts with a seed of thought and grows into a revelation …” Nicky Sutton

  1. I choose to plant seeds of kindness because if I’m going to reap what I sow, I want to reap kindness. I have a friend who says, he sowed too many seeds of badness in his druggie days, so now, he continually has to pray for a crop failure (LOL). Thank goodness for the law of – when you know better you do better!

Since Karma knows my soul’s address, I want to plant random acts of kindness as often as possible. I enjoy the smile on a person’s face or the unsolicited hug, when a person experiences my unexpected act of kindness. Is that selfish to enjoy others’ responses?

“No act of kindness is ever wasted.” Aesop

  1. I choose to plant seeds of joy wherever I go – in the grocery store, at family gatherings, even in my garden. I want to be mindful and leave positively charged energy, so whenever someone sees me coming, they are glad I’m headed in their direction; not ducking from me or wishing they could be beamed up by Scottie instead. And yes, I even like to bring the joy to the butterflies and birds in my yard.

In our society, today’s zeitgeist is filled with negativity, misunderstandings, and fear. It seems so many people – fear what they hate – hate what they fear and feel justified the bullying of those people, places, and things they are being taught to fear. So that’s why, I know that I am in alignment with my soul’s assignment when I can bring in the joy or generate enough joy to share with others.

“You don’t have joy; you choose to intentionally generate it.” Brendon Burchard

What are you planting today? — Remember words are power-filled and can be helpful or hurtful.

Will you plant negative or positive seeds today? — Let’s make a joy-full noise!


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Posted by: C J | June 8, 2016

Every time you plant a seed you…

 deny a weed!

Acorn's best expression!

Acorn’s best expression!









I’ve been planting my favorite vegetable seeds in my garden all week. If you’re an avid gardener like me and spend lots of time in Nature, you already know how mindfulness can sneak in without notice. For example, you know how when you notice one thing as a truth it can become a truth across many aspects of life…

Well, what I noticed as I was planting these seeds is: 1. the act of planting seeds is a promise of something more – 2. Planting seeds is an act of faith – 3. Planting seeds is a commitment to nurture – AND 4. Wait for it – the crossover to other aspects; even the greatest creations start as a seed in someone’s imagination! My favorite tree, the mighty oak starts from a small acorn.

“In every seed lie the components of all life the world has known from all time to now.”
—Sister Joan Chittister

Mother Nature shows us in so many ways how to practice our faith even if it’s the size of a mustard seed. Every time I plant a seed I deny a weed and I’m practicing a form of faith showing my courage to believe in something I cannot see, because when I plant okra seeds, I expect and get okra plants and pods. Planting and promising is a dance Mother Nature and I have done well for over 50 years.

Think about the seed it just does what is imprinted in it to do. It cracks open and produces its bounty. When an acorn seed sprouts, I wonder if it knows how grand its manifestation will be. I am enamored with trees of all types but there is one particular live oak – “The Angel Tree” outside of Charleston, NC… (pictured above) that I’ve only seen pictures of, but dream of touching my bare feet on its bare roots. I wonder did this acorn seed know – how long its manifestation would be on the planet – how magnificent it would become – the recognition it would gain and sustain – I bet not! I believe it just went about being an acorn doing what is written for it to do….

“What is the cause of the growth of an acorn? – The oak that is to come!” ~ Joseph Campbell

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could be a seed that cracks open to grow into the most magnificent expression of what is written/encoded on our soul – to have the courage to trust the process?

Wouldn’t it be nice if we remembered, when people start piling fertilizer/shit on us that we are a seed and we will grow through the mess to BE the finest expression of our soul’s imprinted message?

Wouldn’t it be nice to remember we need the gifts of challenge, contrast, conflict, choice, and change to become our own version of the mighty oak?

“They tried to bury us. They didn’t know we were seeds.” Mexican proverb

I am ready and willing to crack open and BE the best version of ME! Remember no matter what happens, the acorn’s best expression is to be the mighty oak tree…

“If you want a tree to grow – you have to water and nourish the roots not just the leaves.”

Thich Nhat Hanh

Your turn:

Are you willing and ready to BE? What would you want to BE? What do you think is already encoded in you?  Share with me in the reply area below, thanks for sharing.

Come back soon for another cup of comfort – Seeds to be continued…


















Posted by: C J | May 11, 2016

Final Testament

Deep in rural Alabama sits this incredible structure, like a dog-eared page reminding us of a very old book. Built in the decade just before the Civil War, this Presbyterian Church was probably bui…

Source: Final Testament

Posted by: C J | February 29, 2016

I find myself learning how to be…

Still again…



Let nature watch you...

Let nature watch you…

Just the other day, I heard a mother scream at her little boy, “Sit your ass down and get still!” – I’m thinking how the hell is that going to happen when you just amped him up with your voice and your energy? It’s kinda like, “Stop that crying before I really give you something to cry about!” Now you’ve scared the heck out of me and all I can do is, suck in air loudly, trying to calm myself. Anyway my whole point is we all need to allow the time to be still and experience life at a different pace.


Unplug from your devices long enough to experience life without facing a screen.

I’ve noticed that the more I want to find solace in silence, I look to Mother Nature. Everyone who knows me well, knows I am a yard and garden fanatic. So I am outside a lot and I pay attention to Nature. Every morning I feed at least 7 species of song birds on my back deck. I’ve learned if I am still long enough the birds accept me as part of their realm. The chickadees are the first to ignore me and eat while I’m standing near them but if I stay still long enough the other birds will too.

In the caption picture of the hawk, (right off my back deck), we were watching each other for about 3 minutes, I felt honored and privileged to lock eyes with this hawk.

“Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.” Albert Einstein

I also noticed when I’m in the yard sitting motionless, near the butterflies’ landing spots they will land on me. So what I need to learn again is to just be still and experience the timelessness of life, to observe the many ways Nature invites me to just be and let the world do its happy dance.

“Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.”  ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

I’ve decided to settle into the speed of soul, which knows no time frames or time limits. I choose to let my soul shine effortlessly.  Some days I feel like a spiritual ninja – taking a vow to listen to the whispers, a vow to see what is really in front of me, and a vow to be a landing spot for Nature’s beauty.

All of my quiet efforts to unplug from the electronic devises long enough to hear mySelf think and to feel my own feelings, ensures me a great ROI (return on investment). Please believe, silence is user-friendly.

Here are 4 quick ways to be still for 5 – 10 minutes:

  1. Commune with Nature
  2. Meditate
  3. Listen to your favorite soothing music
  4. Pursue creativity

Come back soon for another cup of comfort!

Posted by: C J | January 1, 2016

Letting go does not mean…


It’s ready to go…

you’re weak it means you’re strong!

Letting go does not mean you’re giving up – you’re giving in – or that you’re giving out; it just means that you’re throwing out the fantasy of what you wish “it” was/is for a better reality.

On Tuesdays (trash day), I throw out the trash and don’t expect or want the trash man to bring it all back to me the next week, because trash needs to be trashed. I simply accept that the it is gone and let it go.

As we reflect on 2015 and imagine 2016; let’s release the fear inducing “stuff” and be open and available to the joy infusing “stuff”. It’s time for you to let go of what is trying to let go of you! If not now – when?

“Letting go is an act of love!” Guy Finley

Once you let go don’t go back and pick “IT” up, don’t go back and play with it, don’t go back and entertain it again… go ahead breathe out loud (BOL) and let go. If and when “stuff” bubbles up again, and please believe it will pop up again, but don’t resist it, just acknowledge it and give the “stuff” permission to keep moving on.

“People have a hard time letting go of suffering.” Thich Nhat Hanh

HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone!  Instead of making easy-to-break resolutions; I am making commitments. For example, I am committed to spending more time in my yard not just working but enjoying its beauty. I am committed to writing more for the joy of it. And I’m committed to buying and reading Mark Nepo’s latest book. These are just a few – I’m sure I’ll add more as the year progresses.

Let go and grow with the flow!

What are you willing to commit to for your New Year?

Come back soon for another cup of comfort!

Practice self-care?

Can I please????

Can I please????

How do you give yourSelf permission to practice self-care? Too often we use illness as our permission slip – by becoming ill – because if we’re sick no one is going to call us lazy or selfish for taking care of ourselves. Am I right?

How do you define “taking care of yourSelf”? Is it by cooking your favorite meal, polishing your nails, or watching a marathon of your favorite TV show? For me it is all of the above plus: taking the time to exercise, work in my garden, or taking a long hot bath.

“How you treat yourSelf demonstrates your self-worth.” Dr. CJ 

Finally it’s your turn to create a quick daily ritual that allows you to BE more in tuned with your wants and needs. Self-first is not selfish; I’m not talking about in a narcissistic self-absorbed kinda’ way. I simply mean if you’re hungry eat, if your knees hurt sit down, or if you need to pee go pee. As women we often put off our basic needs until everyone else’s is met. Am I right?

What does it feel like when you take care of your wants and needs? I must confess I still feel guilty at times for taking the time to polish my toenails when the kitchen floor needs to be swept, or I’m wondering who needs my attention instead of my toes??? BUT I’m allowing mySelf to FLY = first love yourSelf. Self-neglect helps no one, because the better I feel and look the better I can help others.

“The things you do the most are the things you will do the best.” Marva Collins

I’ve been reading the book, ‘Writing Down Your Soul’ by Janet Conner.  She has a section that shows us how to give ourselves permission to do – (Whatever) – So I am merely passing it on to you. I give you permission to practice guilt-free self-care. If you visit my, you can get weekly tips on how to do just that.

What if, when you or I practice self-care we are merely telling the world, “I am you-nique, amazing, and important.” And I’m giving mySelf permission to be AMAZING out loud and enjoy life on my terms and no longer feel guilty for taking care of my needs too. Wouldn’t it be nice if you were to join me?

“Self-care is not an option!” Dr. CJ

 How do you give yourSelf permission to accept what the Universe has in store for you each day?

If you have 5 minutes – look out the window and watch Mother Nature

If you have 10 minutes – meditate with music

If you have 30 minutes – take a bath and do your nails

Today is Halloween go ‘head and TREAT YOURSELF!

Come back soon for another cup-of-comfort…

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