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your Personal Best!

Will you give your PB?

Personal Best (PB) is about you going beyond what you have already done.  It gives you motivation and inspiration to keep moving forward, keep learning, keep giving, and keep receiving.  When I do my personal best in any given moment I feel joy, satisfaction, and contentment. Because I know that I have given all I have to give for that moment.

I often ask my private clients, once you have given your very best or personal best what else you can do? Most of my clients have had relationship challenges – sometimes it’s with food, sometimes with Mom, but most often with their partners or combination of all of the above. “CJ I have given it my best shot and now what else can I do?” – I mean seriously what else can you do- you’ve done your best –

Make sure you are delivering your personal best and let the Universe handle the rest!

Personal best is about that moment you give a project, a person, or a situation your distracted  presence or the fullness of you. Please believe you will feel this incomparable satisfaction and unmatched self-value when you know you have just given your PB.  It has nothing to do with doing your perfect best but your personal best. If you wait for your perfect best you will remain motionless or stuck. For example, if you have a boss who constantly stock piles your work load; all you can do is your very best! And you have the right to look your boss dead in the eye and express to her, ‘today this is my best- I have given this project and you my best.’

“Personal Power is the ability to take action.” Tony Robbins

If you have watched sports you know what I’m talking about – like when a NFL kicker does his personal best and it just happens to set a new record, when a WNBA player lands her best 3 pointer and it just happens to win the game, or when the late great Olympic athlete Flo Jo ran a perfect race and set a women’s record that to this day has not been broken. When I watch and experience their PB, I really do feel their elation and pride.

In our daily lives we can strive for our personal best by being present in the moment, being committed to giving our best, and staying focused on the prize- whatever that might be. For example, I love making homemade goodies to share with my family. This summer I made from scratch Sicilian spaghetti red sauce, a Southern tomato relish (chow chow), and CJ’s Urban Bourbon BBQ sauce – I am laser focused on my cooking and in doing my PB in the kitchen because my cooking will go to my loved ones.

This Fall I made and sent homemade Mexican tamales back home to Oklahoma. OH YEAH- my Mom said, “These are the best tamales you’ve made ever – I hope you wrote down what you did different!” I’ve been making tamales for over 25 years and I’m still finding a PB. That puts a smile on my face!

“The meaning of life is to give life meaning.”  Ken Hudgins

Here is a point to ponder: What can you do to improve your PB – spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically (SEMP) oh and financially too???  Tell me which one needs the most attention from you and tell me how you will give that attention to make a change. You can reply below.

Imagine if: Self-reverence, self-knowledge, and self-control lead to personal mastery which then would lead to your personal best.

Remember this: personal mastery is the ability to continually move toward being your best SEMP$ and being your PB is not a sprint but a lifetime marathon. That’s why we must extend and sustain the moments when we are free of fear, feel truly alive, and connected to all that is so we feel confident in giving or being our PB.

“You can have no dominion greater or less than that over yourself.” Leonardo da Vinci

Too often we let OPP= (other peoples’ problems) hinder us from even trying to give our PB. What if you resolve to not let OPP bleed onto you – drenching you with their unresolved issues expecting your to solve them? I’ve got enough “stuff” of my own and I have decided not to cosign for OPP and the lessons they came here to learn through those challenges and problems. Besides if we solve all their problems we are the “thug” who is robbing them of the opportunity to give their personal best.

“Only one who devotes himself to a cause with his whole strength and soul can be a true master. For this reason mastery demands all of a person.”  Albert Einstein

And too often we let OPF= (other peoples’ fears) dim our light and not let it shine. Fear can be delivered from a loving place without malice but the result is the same – the receiver becomes fearful and stuck in the muck. Remember cause and effect is a real Universal law. Cause = fear effect = staying stuck

Open your wings so you can FLY and BE who you are – even if that means “change”. The caterpillar is unaware that she will grow wings as soon as she allows nature to change her into a beautiful butterfly.

When you live and give your PB it sets you up to live a remarkable and amazing life – you own the responsibility and accountability for your creativity, energy, and soul’s assignment.

QUESTIONS to help you give or be your PB:

1. What would it feel like to have enough self-confidence to live at your personal best more than you are now?
2. What would it feel like to let you light shine on a pathway for others?
3. What would it feel like to give your PB just for the next 24hrs?

Come back soon for another cup of comfort!