Doctor C J's Blog

Your experiences, truth, and point of view?

Tired of being discounted?

I was just talking with my niece Latisha, last night and we were talking about know-it-all people who refuse to            hear what you have to say. And that we like to prove our point of view but also have learned to choose our battles. Don’t get it twisted we can talk shit with the best and the worst but decided to save our time and energy for better things.

That being said, how many times have you been in a conversation with someone who is so arrogant and dismissive they tell you, “OMG, you are so wrong and crazy for believing that.” So they think it is their way or no way?

So this is our tactic when put in that situation again: look the person straight in the eye and say, “I’m not asking for your validation. I don’t need your approval. I’m not trying to convert you to my truth. I’m not asking you to prove your stance. I am just sharing my experience, my truth, my point of view. Now what I would appreciate is for you to simply allow me to be me.

It would be great if you could say, “I see you, I hear you, and I feel you.”  

I don’t have to have scientific evidence for what I feel. I don’t want your interrogations, crossed arms, or eye rolls.  The Universe is filled with the unexplained and all I ask of you is to stay open to other possibilities. I know for some people being open-minded can feel risky. Embrace change? Oh hell no!

It takes courage to be open to new ideas to see life differently and to honor new opportunities, or new possibilities. Courage allows all of us to release what is no longer useful or meaningful in our life.

I realize at this very moment, that I am so much more than I’ve ever shown you and so much more than you are willing to see in me. Hmmm, I will not flinch when I tell someone,~~ I am who I am and I will let my light shine and not blind.

It’s Your Turn:

v  I’ve said this many times before, we teach people how to treat us by what we tolerate.

v  What are you teaching or tolerating that is no longer a truth for you?

v  What did you stop teaching or tolerating recently from others?

Come back soon for another cup of comfort!